col – Healing in Plain Sight

Unmasked

I lived with a mask, a cover for 40 years. This is not to say there was no truth. There was truth. But my social self … the me I showed the word was encased in a hardened shell of protection and armor. I’m perfect it said. I do all the right things. I hit… Continue reading Unmasked

How can I help and serve today?

Part of healing is finding one’s unique gift and then giving it. The masters always advise finding a way to help and serve others because that’s what makes us truly happy. This is a tricky one for those among us who have had codependent tendencies for much of our lives… sublimating ourselves in relationships and… Continue reading How can I help and serve today?

2022 Reflections

What have you outgrown? What can you let go of that is holding you back? I have outgrown the “fawn” trauma response. I am so done with that. I have outgrown playing small and pretending I don’t want more. I have outgrown taking shit from people and being a dumping ground for others’ negativity and… Continue reading 2022 Reflections

alone for the holidays

A lot of my dear ones and beloveds are uncoupled, whether by choice or by circumstance. I empathize with the loneliness that some single individuals feel in a society that tells us we must be coupled to be happy, content, and complete. It’s not true for everyone. Some single folks are content and find their happiness… Continue reading alone for the holidays

Tapas – Dicipline

My teacher often says: We don’t always get to do the things we want to do, but we have to learn to want to do the things we have to do. 🤯 In my heart, I know this is the case. In any areas of my life where I feel dissatisfied, applying more discipline is… Continue reading Tapas – Dicipline

Gratitude

1. I’m alive 2. My breath 3. My phone and ability to post this 4. The cushions beneath me. 5. The feeling of my dog’s wet nose nuzzling on my arm 6. The sound of my daughter laughing with her friends 7. The fact that my son just called his older sister to ask for… Continue reading Gratitude

review: stutz

https://www.netflix.com/tudum/stutz i really enjoyed the documentary film stutz by jonah hill. if you are interested in psychotherapy and how it can assist in the healing process, i’d recommend checking it out. caveat: it is not for everyone. it’s a bit arcane, profound, and personal which is radical in our era of homogenized spectacle and pablum,… Continue reading review: stutz

Looking for trouble

Sometimes we are out there looking for trouble. Storm clouds move in and we are pissed off at the very existence of our loved ones, regardless of whether they actually provoked us. Today was one of those days. I came home from Yoga class feeling great and refreshed and found my kids occupying the living… Continue reading Looking for trouble

8. Where can I find some laughs today?

8. Where can I find some laughs today? Humanity has unquestionably one really effective weapon—laughter. Power, money, persuasion, supplication, persecution—these can lift at a colossal humbug—push it a little—weaken it a little, century by century, but only laughter can blow it to rags and atoms at a blast. Against the assault of laughter, nothing can… Continue reading 8. Where can I find some laughs today?

7. How can I change my habits today? (reactions, actions)?

You CAN teach an old dog new tricks. My dog is 16 years old .. 87 in human years and he is always learning new things. Humans, too, can learn, adapt and change … even dramatically. I know this from reading and absorbing the science of the brain and neuroplasticity and from witnessing and observing… Continue reading 7. How can I change my habits today? (reactions, actions)?