non reactivity

is what i am working on. mostly struggling with – but at least i am aware. “You are the sky. Everything else – it’s just the weather.” ― Pema Chödrön pema’s right. we are born on earth and our humanity is our teacher. but we don’t want to be taught. we want to be the sky,… Continue reading non reactivity


I lived with a mask, a cover for 40 years. This is not to say there was no truth. There was truth. But my social self … the me I showed the word was encased in a hardened shell of protection and armor. I’m perfect it said. I do all the right things. I hit… Continue reading Unmasked

2022 Reflections

What have you outgrown? What can you let go of that is holding you back? I have outgrown the “fawn” trauma response. I am so done with that. I have outgrown playing small and pretending I don’t want more. I have outgrown taking shit from people and being a dumping ground for others’ negativity and… Continue reading 2022 Reflections

alone for the holidays

A lot of my dear ones and beloveds are uncoupled, whether by choice or by circumstance. I empathize with the loneliness that some single individuals feel in a society that tells us we must be coupled to be happy, content, and complete. It’s not true for everyone. Some single folks are content and find their happiness… Continue reading alone for the holidays


1. I’m alive 2. My breath 3. My phone and ability to post this 4. The cushions beneath me. 5. The feeling of my dog’s wet nose nuzzling on my arm 6. The sound of my daughter laughing with her friends 7. The fact that my son just called his older sister to ask for… Continue reading Gratitude

review: stutz i really enjoyed the documentary film stutz by jonah hill. if you are interested in psychotherapy and how it can assist in the healing process, i’d recommend checking it out. caveat: it is not for everyone. it’s a bit arcane, profound, and personal which is radical in our era of homogenized spectacle and pablum,… Continue reading review: stutz

Looking for trouble

Sometimes we are out there looking for trouble. Storm clouds move in and we are pissed off at the very existence of our loved ones, regardless of whether they actually provoked us. Today was one of those days. I came home from Yoga class feeling great and refreshed and found my kids occupying the living… Continue reading Looking for trouble